Monthly Archives: August 2012

Quit That Quarter-Life Kvetching

ideal lives, kvetching, quarter life crisisrebeccairubin

Is my boyfriend the one? Is this job right for me? Did I order the right thing on the menu? Should I have gone to that other party?

If questions like these run through your mind on the ‘reg, I have one thing to say to you:

Quit that quarter-life kvetching, woman!

Rather than obsessing over whether or not your current life circumstances are 100% “right”, why not redirect your focus to doing the absolute best that you can with the life situations that are right in front of you.

At work, bring your total attention to completing each and every assignment with excellence. On dates, be open to enjoying time spent with another human being, rather than freaking out over whether or not he or she fulfills your perfect man (or woman) checklist. When stuck in traffic, take the opportunity to breathe deeply, call a friend, or listen to some great music or an inspirational podcast.

I deeply believe that our ideal lives are not a set of “perfect” circumstances we will someday “achieve” and ride off into blissfully happy sunsets. I think it’s more like an attitude we can choose to adopt no matter what life throws our way.

I’ve had mediocre dates turn into amazing friends. Lack of plans turn into awesome adventures. Not making the cut end up being an amazing stroke of luck.

It is all in your attitude Babycakes!

What do you think about this subject? Do you fall prey to quarter life-kvetching and feel pressured to have it all figured out yesterday? Would love to hear about it in the comments below!

Just see what happens

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“Sometimes we need to stop analyzing the past, stop planning the future, stop figuring out precisely how we feel, stop deciding exactly what we want, and just see what happens.”
-Sex and The City

Lazy and Loving It

laziness, productivity, summerrebeccairubin

Lately I’ve been a slightly less motivated version of myself. Normally, this would be cause for distress, but rather than resist this leisurely attitude, I’ve decided to run (or rather, slowly amble along) with it.

I’m savoring lingering conversations on backyard patios, the lovely feeling of dipping my (tangerine pedicured) toes in my mom’s backyard pool, jogging through Merridian Hill Park as the sun sets over DC (while ogling all the cute puppies, of course), and taking a break from my blow dryer to let my hair return to its natural curly state.

While I’m all for goal setting, personal growth and productivity, sometimes kicking back and being (dare I say it) lazy can be a very good thing. While I plan to ramp up my general level of activity come September, for now I plan to continue to take it easy, reflect on what’s next for me and be grateful for all that is wonderful about summer. Care to join me?