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Introducing….#20DaysOfTruth!

IF YOU TOLD THE TRUTH ON FACEBOOK FOR 20 DAYS STRAIGHT…WHAT WOULD HAPPEN TO YOUR BUSINESS?

I’m about to find out…

Instead of a typical “launch” for my 2017 Mastermind, I’m going to conduct a little marketing experiment (with myself as the Guinnea pig).

Every day between now and December 24th I will post THE FULL UNEDITED TRUTH about what’s really going on “behind the scenes” in my business…

…And I’ll do it on my personal Facebook profile for all to see (and very possibly judge).

There will be no highly-produced video series.

No professionally-designed opt-in + sales page.

No pre-scripted webinar (purposefully designed to make you buy buy buy!)

No email funnel reverse-architected to position my program as THE ANSWER to all of your problems.

None of that stuff.

MY GOAL?

TO SEE IF I CAN FILL A PROGRAM WITH NOTHING BUT MY WORDS, MY (FULL) TRUTH, AND MY FACEBOOK PROFILE.

I’m doing this for several reasons…

1) I’m over how complicated/expensive launches have become. So many coaches I know (myself included) are living month-to-month when all is said and done (yes, I have crossed the 6 figure mark in yearly revenue and am still juuuust paying off my credit card in full each month).

This is because even though revenues are often high, the costs associated with launching can be astronomical. Most coaches and healers do not have a trust fund or rich husband to fall back on…but they do have thoughts, feelings, and a Facebook profile. Is that enough? We shall see…

2) My last launch was emotionally excruciating…and only my inner circle really knew the depth of it. I fell prey to the train of thought that “if people really saw just how messy/imperfect I am they would never trust me enough to make a purchase.” I hope I was incorrect in making that assumption because…

RIGHT NOW I WANT NOTHING MORE THAN TO TELL THE FUCKING TRUTH.

(and I want it desperately)

Will it work? We shall see…

Tune in tomorrow at 9am EST (ish) for Day 1 of this #20DaysOfTruthexperiment.
I have no idea what I’ll be posting, but that’s part of the fun.

Until then…

xo
Rebecca

Ps. I’m not trying to hate on old-school launching (I’ve done a summit, Periscope challenge, 4 part video series, fb ads and funnels galore in 2016 alone). I’m honestly just curious if there is a better way 

Are you a “problem client”? (me too)

You guys, I am NOT easy to coach.

Like, not at all.

I feel a little bit bad for every coach that has to work with me (except for the business coaches…I’m much nicer to them for some reason. Probably because my ego feels safe talking strategy…).

But the people who have walked me through some deeply rooted emotional shit?

They deserve a fucking medal.

I can be THE WORST kind of client and I know it.

* I argue.
* I doubt the process (and even at times the coach)
* I make up all kinds of excuses…and I’m VERY convincing
* I try to “back seat coach” and control the session
* I get super defensive/resistant/prickly when I’m being called out.
* I’ve even been known to put someone up on a pedestal only to realize they are not as “perfect” as I thought (and then feel disappointed and resentful).

I’d be a total nightmare to deal with if I wasn’t so damn aware of what what was happening, a blessing and a curse.

BUT…being a tough cookie client DOES have it’s gifts.

The biggest?

I’m pretty hard to shake when I’m coaching a “problem client.”

I don’t back down.

I don’t run and hide (at least not anymore).

And I don’t take your resistance all that seriously/personally.

So If you’ve always felt like you’re “too much” for a coach to handle.

If your resistance has caused past coaches to shrink back and doubt themselves, making them a less effective stand for you and causing YOU to feel unsafe or misunderstood.

If you desire REAL TRANSFORMATION (plus tangible strategy to back it up) and want to work with someone who’s more committed to your growth than to you liking or approving of them.

And if 2017 is the year you want to become FUCKING VISIBLE in the online world and you want to be deeply supported…I want to talk to you.

I’ve been so excited by the interest people have shown in my mastermind since my post yesterday, and I’m already lining up calls.

There are only 8 spots total and they are starting to fill.

So if a part of you is feeling called toward this experience, don’t wait. Reach out to me.
xx

“Manifesting” not working for you? Try this.

THERE IS A MAJOR MISSING LINK IN THE CURRENT CONVERSATION AROUND “MANIFESTING”….

Getting clear about what you want? It’s not enough.

Taking action to make it happen? Still not enough.

Consuming every self help book/new age podcast you can get your hands on and repeating affirmations till you’re blue in the face? Nope, that won’t cut it either.

Don’t get me wrong, these are all steps in the right direction, BUT (and it’s a big but)…

FOR MANIFESTING TO TRULY WORK YOU HAVE TO BE VIBRATING AT THE FREQUENCY OF WHATEVER IT IS THAT YOU DESIRE.

“What in the actual fuck?” I can almost hear my less-than woo woo friends saying…but bear with me…

In essence, I mean that to call in or “manifest” whatever it is that you really really want (and not self-sabotage once it appears), you have to get to the root of whatever is currently blocking you from having it….and to quote Snoop Dogg, “drop it like it’s hot!”

Despite what books like The Secret would have us believe, this “un-blocking” process?

It’s not for the faint of heart.

Most people would much rather just buy the crystals, play with the goddess cards and take a few yoga classes…all the while wondering why the F they’re not getting results they want.

“Maybe manifesting doesn’t work?” they think to themselves, growing increasingly frustrated, ultimately coming to the conclusion that “all this woo woo stuff” is bullshit.

IT’S NOT BULLSHIT.

But it’s nowhere near as easy as “pop spirituality” has made it out to be.

>>Re-wiring deeply rooted beliefs that have been passed down in your family for generations? Hard. As. Fuck.

>>Breaking co-dependency and ending (or re-creating) relationships that no longer match what you want call in? Hella painful and scary.

>>Being willing to look at (and heal) childhood trauma that you’d rather not touch with a ten foot pole? Decidedly less fun than cutting out pictures of beaches and engagement rings in some magazine (#justsayin).

>>Taking FULL RESPONSIBILITY for everything you have created in your life up until this point and refusing to view yourself as a victim of your circumstances any longer? Ooof. It’s a doozy!

NOW I’M NOT SAYING THAT YOUR DESIRES ARE IMPOSSIBLE…OR THAT YOU HAVE TO BECOME SOME KIND OF NINJA CROSS BETWEEN JESUS, GANDHI AND BEYONCE TO LIVE A KICK ASS LIFE…

Not at all.

I’m just encouraging you to stop falling for “magic pill marketing” and accept that there is a reason you don’t have every single thing you’ve ever wanted right this very second.

And it’s not because “manifesting doesn’t work.”

It’s because YOU still have work to do. Lessons to learn. More chapters to write in this crazy book called life.

By all means, buy the crystals, read the self-help books and go to town creating those new year’s resolutions. But don’t stop there.

SHOW UP for the lessons life is presenting to you.

Be willing to “go there” and get messy in service of your growth.

This shit works if you do.

Promise.
xx

How I became a contributor for Business Insider (no, it did not “just happen”)

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1) Earlier this year I thought to myself, “Wow, I would really love to be featured in Business Insider, I think it would be great for my brand….Universe, show me the way.”

2) I started seeing a few big-name coaches have their stories in Business Insider (all of whom have been around way longer than me and make more money than I do…at least according to their websites). But I’ve never been one to let that sort of thing stop me. “If she can do it, I can too” has always been my mantra.

3) I started researching and realized all the stories about these coaches were written by the same Editor. I looked closer and realized that it appeared that many of the people featured were all a part of a certain publicity coach’s high level mastermind (to the tune of $25k/year)…and this woman was friends with the editor.

4) “Interesting” I thought to myself. I bet I can get into Business Insider without spending a dime. (Game On, Universe).

5) I pitched the editor my story in April…and never heard back.

6) I followed up a few weeks later with a slightly different angle…and once again, crickets.

7) I began leaving comments on the articles she wrote regularly…”maybe she’ll notice me this way?” I thought. Still nothing.

8) I got frustrated, why was I even trying this hard? Did this even matter? I let it go for the time being.

9)Then I saw that my uncle, who is a published author was quoted by this same editor. I wrote to him asking how it happened and he replied with something along the lines of, “when you are a published author, people just come to you.”

“Hmmm…I guess I’m just not a big enough deal?” I thought to myself. I felt a little sour about the whole thing.

10) Then one of my friends on Remote Year was featured in Business Insider by THIS SAME EDITOR about being a remote worker and something clicked:

  • I wonder if she’d be interested in a story about what it’s like to be a remote entrepreneur rather than a coach? Looking back I see how this is one of the most interesting parts of my story, but sometimes it’s hard to see ourselves objectively and pinpoint our most media-friendly angles (something I help my clients and students with).
  • I also tried to put myself in her (probably very busy) shoes…and realized I would be more likely to get coverage if I actually wrote the piece rather than pitching a piece about me (seems like a no brainer, right? But again, it’s hard to see our own blindspots).

11) I decided I would give it one last shot, I mean I didn’t want to seem like a desperate pathetic loser who couldn’t take a hint (yep, that’s where my mind goes). But something told me I was getting closer (this is how The Universe works by the way…when you get closer to the thing you are manifesting you start seeing evidence of it all around you and receive more information and ideas about HOW to make it happen).I sent the pitch…and heard crickets for another month and a half.

12) I put the whole thing on the back burner deciding, “If it’s meant to happen, it will happen”) and focused on other things. During that time I was quoted in The Guardian without having to put in ANY effort…it felt like The Universe whispering, “You’re getting warmer…”

13) Then, one morning out of the blue a few weeks ago, the Business Insider editor wrote back. “We’re less interested in the “coach” aspect of your story but very interested in the “remote entrepreneur” angle. “Send over a draft” she wrote. “No promises, but we’ll take a look.”

14) I spent days perfecting the piece, created a brand new opt-in gift related to this article (I wanted readers to opt into my email list to make the most of the exposure, and hired a designer to make a beautiful landing page (www.thepursuitoffabulous.com/traveltools). I mean, if I’m gonna do this, I might as well do it right, right?

15) I sent her the story…and a few days later IT WAS LIVE ON BUSINESS INSIDER!!!

Click here to read it!

I spent a month in Belgrade, Serbia. Here’s what I learned…

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I love getting surprised. By a city. By a person. By an experience.

To be honest, I was NOT looking forward to spending August in Belgrade, Serbia…especially while I was launching the 4th round of my group program, Marketing Mastery.

I thought it would be hot and ugly. Like the redheaded step-child of eastern Europe.
Especially after spending July in Prague (which is basically a real-life version of the game Candyland, I had a beautiful 2-bedroom apartment to myself and worked from a gorgeous converted embassy) I was expecting August to be a major let down…
But then I got here…and I kinda don’t hate it.

  • Belgrade does coffee like nobody’s business. Chilling outside for hours on end at a bar that only serves coffee? Totally normal. And I really, really like my caffeine…
  • They party…on the water! If you know me you know that I’m the opposite of a club person…but it’s not for reasons people might think. I actually LOVE bouncing around and talking to people…and the dance floor is totally my happy place…but I just hate being confined in a dark crowded room. And I don’t process alcohol well. Like worse than anyone I know. On top of that, when I’m at a bar or club, it’s like my intuition and energetic sensitivity go on overdrive and while everyone around me is numbing out and letting loose, I can feel all their stuff…it’s weird.
    But outdoor clubs on the water?! I really, really like them. I also think there just this growing comfort with the people I’m traveling with where I can order a latte while everyone else is downing champagne and nobody gives a fuck. And I like it. I guess that was always true but there’s something about traveling with people for 6 months that just allows you to fully relax into who you are around them.
  • I’m making friends with the gritty…in every area of my life. It’s interesting that I’m visiting the “ugliest” city of my year long trip during the time when my anxiety has been at an all-time high with my group program launch. Coincidence? I think not. But I’m realizing that just because a physical place or an emotional state isn’t traditionally “beautiful”, doesn’t mean it isn’t BEAUTIFUL. My anxt-y, shaddow-y side is proving to be an excellent marketing advisor (apparently people like it when you tell the truth about your pain and struggles? Who knew!)

Sometimes the beauty is in the complexity, the contrast, the mix of all the things together that makes life more dynamic and interesting.

Kind of like this #nofilter view from my kitchen window of the sun setting over the gritty Belgrade Skyline.

Anyhow…that’s what I’m thinking about this Tuesday morning…how about you? What’s present? What’s moving through?

This post got 105 likes, 4 shares, and 28 comments…

I’ve come to a sobering (yet oddly liberating) realization in recent months. I shared it on my personal Facebook page yesterday and in 12(ish) hours it’s gotten 105 likes, 4 shares and 28 comments.

This tells me I hit a nerve, so I wanted to share it here, in case you missed it. Here’s what I wrote:

When you say…

“Universe, I’m ready to up-level in a BIG fucking way,” and you really, really mean it, you better get ready.

Because you are about to be initiated in a BIG fucking way.

All the shit that’s been holding you back and keeping you small? You don’t get to bypass it. Not even a little. It’s gonna come up to the surface, and sifting through it will be ANYTHING but comfortable.

Becoming a thought leader is not an easy path. It takes a level of ferocity, gumption and unshakable belief in yourself. Wait no, scratch that. Your belief in yourself will ABSOLUTELY shake. It may even crumble into tiny little pieces. And when it does you’ll realize it’s not about you AT ALL.

It’s about the work. The message. The “BIG WHY” behind everything you do.

If you got into coaching or healing work to feel good about yourself, to be praised, to get famous, to be adored, I implore you, STOP NOW.

Because it is a humbling ride.

Yes there are wins. Big paydays. Moments in the spotlight. “You changed my life” messages. And that stuff IS wonderful.

But there are also dark nights of the soul. Failed launches. Online bullies. Investments that don’t pan out. Fierce criticism from strangers and people who you love most. Exhaustion. Questioning everything.

Like I said, it’s a ride.

The only thing that WILL get you through is a belief, not in yourself, but in THE WORK. The healing or art you are called to bring into the world.

THAT will get you through the dark times, and keep you humble in the good times.

Anyone you look up to online, anyone who is living their dreams, don’t for a second think they haven’t been through an initiation of their own. So before you get sucked into envy or comparison, know this:

You can have YOUR version of success if you want it. But you have to show up, again and again and again and again.

You have to be willing to do the hard, unglamorous, and at times, emotionally grueling work.

So are you up for the challenge? Ready to roll up your sleeves and be a thought-leader and changemaker of the highest order, come what may?

What my shaky hands have to do with YOUR marketing

If you’ve never met me in person, you probably don’t know this, but I have a hand tremor.

Usually it’s not too noticeable, but when caffeine kicks in or I have low blood sugar, my hands get pretty damn shaky (like, I could never be a surgeon, shaky).

For years I’ve felt so much shame around my tremor. I felt like it made me look like I was nervous (even when I wasn’t). I’ve made jokes about it and laughed it off if I accidentally spilled a drink, but it has always felt distinctly “uncool”.

Anyway over the weekend I was in a room of over 100 women entrepreneurs at a posh hotel in Beverly Hills, and I was excited.

My hair looked good, I felt confident in my outfit, and I was excited to be one of the speakers at this event, and meet women in person who I’ve been connected to online.

But as I was mingling in the morning, I could feel my hands shaking as I held my coffee cup, and found myself wondering, “Do the girls I’m talking to notice? Do they think I’m nervous? Do they think less of me?”

Lately I have been getting 1 central memo from The Universe on repeat:

Be vulnerable, be vulnerable be vulnerable.

Take off the mask of “perfection” and show the world your awkward, wobbly (or in this case, shaky) parts.

I feel like my shaky hands were my vulnerability at the event. In a situation where it’s so tempting to put on a mask of “I’m a polished powerful entrepreneur” the shaky hands made me human, raw, relatable.

I talked about the experience with a few women at my table and was met with so much love and appreciation for being vulnerable. Later that night I posted about it on my Facebook page and it received well over 100 likes, many comments and numerous private messages.

The lesson?

When you are vulnerable, people feel connected to you, and that leads them to trust you. This idea that you have to seem like you’ve “arrived” and “have it all figured out” to be a credible coach is total bull (and buying into is is REALLY stressful and unsustainable).

But Rebecca, if I’m vulnerable won’t I lose all my credibility?” I hear you ask.

Here’s my honest response to this very real question…

You are not qualified to coach on a particular topic because of the results you’ve produced (for yourself or others) or the place you’ve “arrived”. You are qualified because you are actively IN PROCESS with the subject around which you coach/teach/consult. You are qualified because you are wildly interested in/deeply committed to sifting through all the muck to find the gold.

Let me repeat: YOUR WORTH IS NOT YOUR RESULTS (at least not in the way that the world typically defines “results”).

Because when you conflate the two, you are pretty much guaranteed to periodically feel like total shit, because The Universe doesn’t really let us “arrive” anywhere. At least not for long.  We are inherently “in transit.” Change is awesomely (and at times, excruciatingly) unavoidable.

So let’s get practical here…so you know EXACTLY what I’m talking about and how it applies to you:

  • You can be a love and relationship coach and go through a messy divorce.
  • You can be a weight loss or health coach and have a health or an emotional eating flare up and gain weight.
  • You can be a business coach and be in break down around your business, lose clients, have a failed lauch, etc.

Being “in it” (ya know, sifting through the emotionally messy, murky stuff) in a particular area does not disqualify or diminish your credibility in that area. It enhances it.

We can only take people as deep as we’ve gone. And if we want to be of MASSIVE SERVICE we have to get over our fear that we will lose our credibility if we tell the truth and “go there.”
Do you agree? Disagree? Would love to know…

You may not yet realize how good your life can get!

How Good Life Can Get

As I prepare to re-launch my signature group program, Marketing Mastery, in August I’ve been reflecting on how much has changed since I first created the program in Jan 2015…

And it’s a lot.

At the time I had just moved out of my Mom’s basement in the suburbs and into a cute one-bedroom apartment in DC, was still working part time at my old job, and had JUST gotten clear that I wanted to be a marketing coach.

My days were spent trying to book discovery calls, watching every free marketing training/webinar I could get my hands on (I listened to all 200+ episodes of Gina Devee’s radio in the span of a few weeks), unsuccessfully trying my hand at Tinder (the stories I could tell you!) and reading angel cards/eating gluten free peanut butter cookie’s on Katie DePaola’s coach (they weren’t even that good but when your best friend is a health nut and it’s 2am…what else are you gonna do?).

It was a fun and exciting and totally terrifying time.

There were high highs (getting my first client as a marketing coach! Leading my first group coaching call! Hosting a workshop!) and low lows (having a client agree to work with me only to back out, having to defend my life decisions to skeptical family members who were “really worried about me”, and wondering if I really had what it took to earn enough money coaching to sustain myself).

Fast forward to now and my life (while anything but perfect) looks much different…

I move once a month to a new country (and plan to do so for the foreseeable future) and am constantly somewhere new and exotic. So far this year I’ve been to Uruguay, Argentina, Bolivia, Peru, London and Switzerland…and I’m just getting started.

I have a steady base of 1 on 1 clients who I FUCKING LOVE and who for the most part, completely adore me too. I feel deeply valued on a daily basis and like my work matters.

I have a boyfriend for the first time since I started my business…and it feels GOOD.

I’m MUCH more into intuition and energy healing than I used to be and am currently studying under she-shaman, Jody England, in a 9 month energy healing training program.

My view of what “success” looks like in this coaching world is much more nuanced than it once was.

I used to think that once I hit the holy grail of “$10k/month” all my problems would be solved.

(reality check: NOT true in the slightest).

Cliché as it might sound I now see my business as a journey rather than a destination. I know that no matter how much I achieve, new areas of growth will always present themselves. The experience of being “triggered” and having to work through it isn’t going anywhere (sorry to disappoint).

I also know what I’m capable of and have replaced the shallower self-confidence I used to have with a deep trust in my ability to help people shift at the deepest levels and help them grow aligned and fulfilling businesses.

Lastly, I’m kinder to myself than I used to be.

A funny thing happens when you spend your days hearing about the tender messy parts of other women’s lives…you realize that we’re all always “in it” and NOBODY is as “together” as they seem.

Self doubt is as universal and unavoidable as gravity.

As I’ve been reflecting I’ve felt a sense of peace begin to come over me–it’s cool to see how far I’ve come and acknowledge myself for all that has transpired (I’m a big believer that we don’t do this enough). I encourage you to take some time to do the same…

What’s shifted in your life in the last year and a half?

What are you proud of?

Any ah-has?

Would love to hear about them!

The secret bad habit I’m finally ready to kick…

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I have a confession to make:

Left to my own devices, I’m not a very organized person.

My handwriting looks like it belongs to a 5th grade boy, my purse is often embarrassingly messy, and I have at least 10 computer tabs open at any given time.

My saving grace (and probably the reason I’ve been able to start + run a successful business) is that I’m unusually fast (and pretty darn good at thinking on my feet).

  • I’ve signed a coaching client in an Uber ride during a thunderstorm (periodically muting the line to give directions to the driver)
  • I’ve gotten a random idea in the middle of the night for a program, written up a sales page, and announced it on Facebook within a hour (this is how Marketing Mastery, my signature group marketing program for new coaches, was born)
  • I can take a piece of writing from rough + scattered to gleaming perfection, 15 minutes before it’s due to a client.

I never thought I would have to grow in the area…until I started traveling.

Suddenly my slightly scattered (last-minute but lovable?) attitude no longer cut it. When wifi and electricity are unreliable, you move once a month, you don’t speak the language, the currency is always changing, AND you run your own business?

Disorganization doesn’t fly.

My disorganization pattern was brought to a head with my own coach, who, ironically, is one of the most organized humans I’ve ever encountered (in my coach training program I was taught that how we show up in coaching is how we show up everywhere else, and nothing could be more true).

I’m supposed to fill out a weekly form before each of our sessions and I neglected to do it. Three weeks in a row. And my coach called me out–BIG time.

“Rebecca, this is becoming a pattern,” she said. “You keep showing up for our calls unprepared and feeling overwhelmed and scattered. We are capable of having MUCH more interesting and high level conversations. What is this really about? And what would we be talking about if you weren’t always in overwhelm?”

Pow. She totally nailed it, and it really got me thinking.

Why did this pattern exist? And what would be possible if I WASN’T always running around like a chicken with it’s head cut off?

Here’s what I came up with:

Disorganization is my avoidance tactic of choice. It’s a way for me to escape being fully present in any moment because I’m always “running late” or “on a deadline.” It’s hard to notice when your life is out of alignment if you’re always rushing around. You can avoid feeling lonely when you’re frantically looking for your keys.

So I made the commitment to start getting more organized, but interestingly I felt worse not better (at first).

I found that when I had a to-do list and stuck with it I was crankier and more irritable throughout the day. When my room was spotless and I had more than enough time to get ready for an event, there was nothing to do but feel my feelings (not always my favorite activity).

But I stayed with it–and got support.

Soon it became clear that my work-life was out of alignment and I decided to delay a launch I had planned for May (a very scary and very uncomfortable decision you can read more about here).

Suddenly there was space…and I began to feel lighter than I had in a long time.

It has started to really sink in: I don’t have a disorganization problem (I have an avoiding uncomfortable feelings problem…just like every other human being out there. Disorganization and overwhelm just happen to be my flavor). With this insight, keeping my external environment tidy + maintaining a to-do list has gotten much easier…and when I resist cleaning up I know it’s a sign there is something deeper going on.

Does this strike a chord with you? What’s your flavor of avoiding uncomfortable feelings? I invite you to “out” yourself and let me know.

It’s freaking liberating.

Why I postponed my BIG launch (and what I learned)

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There is a common myth floating around the coaching world that “more is better.”

Every milestone you hit is quickly replaced with something new and shinier. No matter how many marketing tactics you implement, there are seemingly 5 more that “everybody is doing” to add to your already overwhelming to-do list. We’re told that one more course, that perfect Paris photoshoot, hiring this month’s new “it” coach, or implementing the social media platform “everyone is talking about” will help us succeed in business and reach our full potential.

I call bullshit.

Instead of moving us forward faster, this “more, more, more” mentality traps us in a cycle of overwhelm, burnout, and doing many things half way but nothing full out. It spreads us thin, dilutes the potential power and potency of any one activity, and often leaves us in a tailspin.

I’m intimately acquainted with the “more, more more” myth.

I set some pretty lofty goals in January. Not only was I going to travel to 12 countries in 12 months, I would triple the amount of money I made in 2015, make tons of new friends, fall in love, add a minimum of 1k people to my list each month, do regular Periscope challenges, host a video summit, become a published author, and have THE. BIGGEST. LAUNCH. EVER. this May, and host a retreat in Thailand. Oh, and I was going to look really cute doing it.

And I have to give myself credit, in the past four months, while traveling through South America, I’ve…

  • Made many new friends (and maintained pre-existing relationships).
  • Kept a consistently healthy 1 on 1 coaching practice + group program going in the face of electrical outages, spotty wifi, a broken laptop, and a slew of other unpredictable work conditions.
  • Met a boy I really like 🙂
  • Interviewed 13 amazing lady-preneurs for my Day Job to Dream Job summit.
  • Hosted a Periscope challenge.
  • Done some creative writing.
  • Had 2 photoshoots
  • Busted through my fear of public speaking
  • Posted on social media almost every single day
  • Put together a super detailed mega-plan for my upcoming group program launch.

But you know how I was starting to feel last week?

Cranky. Disgruntled. Un-centered. And not all that happy if I’m being honest.

Despite all the pretty pictures littering my Instagram feed, the cool people I was meeting, and a business that was everything I had wanted when I first started out, my life felt like it was bursting at the seems, and it did not feel good.

So I started to get curious…and did a session with the magical (real life mermaid) Heather Bruce Allison.

My big question was this: How do I fall back in love with my work (and, quite honestly, my life)? We began the session with a meditation and she asked me to feel into moving forward with my upcoming launch as planned. My body felt tight and dry, and I saw the color brown.

Then she had me feel into delaying the launch by a few months, and suddenly my body softened, and felt spacious. I saw the color blue.

And so, after much anxiety, second-guessing and feeling feelings, I postponed my launch…and I now feel SO relieved.

My days feel more spacious, I’m less cranky and emotional, and I feel way calmer throughout my work day. Will I make a little less money this month than I thought? Possibly. Will I ultimately be just fine (and probably much better off…financially AND emotionally because of this decision? 100%.

If any part of my story resonates, there’s a message here for you.

Sacrificing your being to get ahead in business never works. Setting goals from the neck up leads to resentment, overwhelm and frustration. You don’t have to “do it all” to get awesome results.

When I look at where the most impact came from in the last few months (in terms of money, relationships, and overall satisfaction), it was this:

  • Writing (and sharing my writing via email and social media)
  • Long chats with soul sisters
  • My weekly Marketing Monday calls in IGC
  • The actual coaching I do with clients 1 on 1 and in my group program
  • Sundays spent in bed with my boyfriend
  • Wandering around beautiful cities and taking pictures

THESE are the things that have brought the biggest results. And they are surprisingly simple, natural and easy for me.

Now, it’s your turn…

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, what could you cut out of your schedule?

What are you doing because someone told you you “should” do it, that doesn’t actually feel aligned?

What are you afraid might happen if you stopped sprinting forward, and took a few minutes to catch your breath and enjoy your surroundings?

I’d love to hear about it. And if you REALLY want to dig in together on it, book a discovery call – let’s jam on what’s possible for you.