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The importance of divine timing in your life + business

Last summer, after 2 years of working tirelessly to get my business off the ground, I was finally feeling solid and steady.

I had left my marketing agency job to coach full-time, filled up my 1-on-1 practice with awesome clients, and successfully launched 2 rounds of my signature group program for new coaches, Marketing Mastery.  

Business was good…but I was restless.

I had been in DC for 7 years and felt a strong desire to travel…not just to go on a vacation…but to live a more nomadic + adventurous lifestyle.

With this clarity, however, came a flurry of anxiety and questions…

Where would I go?

Would I actually be able to do my work in the exotic places my heart longed to visit?

Would it be lonely?

What if traveling ruined the business I had just worked my buns off to build?

I began exploring options and doing research…

  • I investigated a 3-week stint in Costa Rica…but the retreat center where I wanted to stay couldn’t guarantee electricity, let alone wifi.
  • A friend invited me to work from her boyfriend’s beach house in Spain…but then they broke up and those plans fell through.
  • I met a boy who really made my heart go pitter pat and for a swoon-worthy 48 hours considered spending a month in Colorado to explore the possibility there…but then things fizzled out.
  • Then one of my best friends had a family tragedy…and really needed me to be in DC.

I temporarily pressed pause on my travel plans, forgetting them for a bit.  

But The Universe didn’t forget about my desires (it never does) and was conspiring to bring me the exact right travel experience at the exact right time.

One sunny summer afternoon I was lounging by the pool at my Mom’s house and she mentioned a program she had just read about in the New York Times called Remote Year, where 75 young professionals travel to 12 countries in 12 months while working remotely.

My heart skipped a beat as her words sunk in, and I felt a sense of exhilaration coursing through my body.  This was EXACTLY the kind of experience I’d been wanting but I didn’t even know existed.

I immediately began visualizing myself on the trip and saying affirmations, and when registration re-opened, I applied straight away.  After a few essays and a Skype interview, I was accepted, and a couple days later I sent in my deposit.  

It happened so easily this time…with none of the hiccups that I had experienced last spring.

I share this story because I KNOW how frustrating it is to have a big juicy desire or think you’re ready for your next up-level…but feel like things just aren’t lining up for you.

  • Maybe you want to start a coaching business but have no clue how you would find your first paid clients, let alone replace/exceed your current salary.
  • Perhaps you want to reach a wider audience….but hear crickets whenever you share content on social media or pitch a guest post to a publication you love.
  • Or it’s possible you’re looking for a lifestyle shift like I was…but the “how” of it all feels totally overwhelming.

I want to remind you that despite current appearances, whatever you want is not only possible, it’s on its way to you.  

If you keep bumping up against obstacles it doesn’t mean that your desires aren’t in the cards for you.  It might just mean that you’re not quiiiiite ready yet and that something even better than you could have imagined is coming to you…in the perfect way at the perfect time.

The best thing you can do is to have faith, take inspired action toward making your desires a reality, and loosen your grip on the exact result/timeframe…allowing The Universe to do her thing (and even take your breath away every now and then ;)).

Desires are like seeds—when we keep watering them, they will eventually grow into beautiful plants…but in the beginning, when a seed is first planted, it can look like nothing is happening.

Whatever you’re currently manifesting, do your best not to get discouraged or give up just because everything is not going perfectly and it doesn’t fall into your lap immediately.

Trust in divine timing, you won’t regret it 😉

Do you suffer from business FOMO?

Just Say No To FOMO

My last few weeks living/working in Montevideo, Uruguay have been a whirlwind that I can only describe as summer camp meets study abroad meets the first month of freshman year of college.

I have been surrounded by novelty (people, language, places, food) and still running my business as usual (complete with a booked up 1-on-1 practice + group program).

It’s been wonderful….with an emphasis on the FULL part.

So last Friday as I was about to hop onto a crowded bus for a weekend Surf Trip to a beach town called Punta Del Este…a little voice inside told me to stop.

My intuition spoke very clearly, saying: “Don’t go away this weekend, Rebecca.  You need to rest.”

My logical brain fought back (as it does…)

“You’ve already paid for this!”, “You love surfing!”, and the big one…”everyone else is doing it.”

Basically I was faced with some major FOMO (fear of missing out) if I didn’t go…but I know myself…and I know what happens when I ignore that quiet yet wise inner voice of mine…IT GETS LOUDER AND LOUDER UNTIL I HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO LISTEN.

So I stayed…and rest I did (I took a 4 hour nap on Saturday and enjoyed 3 back-to-back nights of 9 hours of sleep).  I have zero regrets and am starting off the week refreshed and in the zone.  I even ended up going to a local beach on Sunday and had a (chill) blast.

The whole experience got me thinking about this concept of FOMO and how it not only impacts our lives…but our businesses.

For example, have you ever…

  • Gotten sucked into a marketing campaign for something you didn’t even know you needed…only to end up overwhelmed, distracted, and financially overextended because you tried to take on too much at once?

  • Compared your business, offerings, or website to people in your industry who are a few steps ahead of you…and felt totally inadequate as a result?

  • Attempted to try every new marketing tactic an “expert” recommended…but done nothing consistently…and ended up scattered + seeing minimal results?

  • Felt really proud of hitting a particular business milestone…until you notice on Facebook that so and so made 6-figures in 6 months as a brand new coach…and assume there must be something wrong with YOU because your wins just aren’t as big and shiny?

If you can relate, I have news for you: You’re suffering from business FOMO.

And it’s literally kryptonite for your success as a coach.

The good news?  There is a cure.

Read on for my no-fail process to help you unhook from FOMO so you can stay in your own lane, trust yourself, and create a FABULOUS business + life that is unique to YOU.

1. Tune in

We all have an inner voice that always sends us messages guiding us to our highest and best.  This inner advisor is powerful + oh so wise…but can easily get drowned out by busyness + mental chatter.  Be sure to take a few minutes each day for silent reflection, meditation and/or journaling to allow this wellspring of wisdom to rise to the surface…and start trusting it when it does appear!

2. Set boundaries around social media

The online world can be a blessing and a curse for coaches and healers.  It can provide us with tons of awesome information + emotional support…along with infinite people to compare ourselves + our progress to (and thus infinite opportunities to feel inferior).  It is VITALLY important that you engage on social media intentionally and with awareness (ie. minimize notifications/checking up on your “competition” and focus on growing + nurturing YOUR community).

3. Ask yourself: “What am I REALLY afraid of?”

It’s super important to get to the root of your flavor of FOMO.  Typically it revolves around some aspect of not enough-ness and a scarcity mindset.  Are you worried about falling behind?  Not being smart enough? Tech-savvy enough?  Well-connected enough?  Ultimately scarcity is a myth (and thus, so is FOMO).

Repeat after me…

You can never miss out on a thing, person or experience that is truly meant for you—and when you ground into + fully embrace this concept of abundance and enough-ness, everything gets better.

Do you relate to the business FOMO conversation?  I invite you to “out” yourself in my private Facebook group, Full Time Fabulous, and tag me.

From living in my mom’s basement to traveling the world

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Ever since graduating college in 2010 I’ve called Washington DC home, but this Saturday I start the next chapter of my life…

I’m visiting 12 countries in 12 months through a program called the Remote Year!

Here’s a sneak peak at my itinerary…

February – Montevideo, Uruguay

March – Buenos Aires, Argentina

April – La Paz, Bolivia

May – Cusco, Peru

June – Istanbul, Turkey

July – Prague, Czech Republic

August – Belgrade, Serbia

September – Cavtat Croatia

October – Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia

November – Koh Phangan, Thailand

December – Phnom Penh, Cambodia

January – Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam

I’m bursting with excitement, a few pre-trip jitters, and soooo much gratitude <3

It will still be business as usual for me (working with my amazing 1-on-1 clients, the fabulous women in my group program, Marketing Mastery, and serving as the Director of Marketing and Business Training for Inner Glow Circle).

But instead of coaching/writing from my pink leather couch in the nation’s capital… I’ll be working from seaside cafes and co-working spaces across the globe!

Whether your dream includes trotting around the world…or running your biz from your couch…I want you to know that it’s meant for you (and that you can have it sooner than you think).

Last January I had juuuust moved out of my Mom’s basement, cut back to working a few days a week at my formerly full-time job, announced that I would no longer be offering “life coaching” and “marketing services” separately but in one cohesive (and more expensive) package, and hired my first high end coach.

My life felt like one leap of faith after another…it was terrifying and totally exhilarating.

In some ways I’m experiencing a bit of déjà vu this January as I prepare to leap again.

As I check off the final items on my To-Do list (last round of immunizations, pre-trip highlights, switching my cell phone plan, etc.) I’m kind of in awe of all that’s happened since last January…

  • Leaving my former job to run The Pursuit of Fabulous full-time (and replacing my old salary in the first 6 months)
  • Starting Inner Glow Circle (part women’s sisterhood part coach training program with my best friends in the world).
  • Selling my first high end coaching package…and eventually selling out my 1 on 1 practice
  • Going from super nervous about speaking in front of a group to creating a signature group program, Marketing Mastery, and running it 3 times in one year (next round starts in mid-June so stay tuned).

It was a year of proving myself and testing what I was made of.

There were so many times when I felt afraid. Overwhelmed. Like I wasn’t quite sure how I would ever make my big dreams my reality…but I just kept trusting and taking the next right action.

What was it that made the biggest difference for me this year? Ultimately I couldn’t have done it without…

  • Sisterhood—having a Taylor Swift-style crew of power girls that I can reach out to for emotional support + business advice has been totally invaluable (Katie, Natalie, Kelly and Lexi I’m looking at YOU).
  • High-level coaching—I seriously don’t know what I would have done without the amazing coaches who have supported me and my business in the last year (Jessica, Sara, Ellie, and Mel are AH-MAZING).
  • Shifting my beliefs around money. I definitely dipped into my savings this year and used credit cards (responsibly). Click here to read my empowering money beliefs for spiritual entrepreneurs.
  • Creating a mindset practice—last September, right after I did Mel Pharr’s mindset challenge, I had my first $35k month and sold out my 1-on-1 practice. Coincidence? I think not. I know believe that having a powerful (and consistent daily mindset practice) is a must for success as a coach.

I’ve always loved the quote, “success leaves footprints” which basically means that if you want what someone else has (or your version of it) it makes sense to do what they do.

So if this is the year you want to create a thriving freedom-based coaching biz, I highly suggest build a community of likeminded women, get the support of a coach, examine whether or not your money beliefs are supporting your entrepreneurial dreams, and get your head in the game daily with an empowering mindset practice.

Want support in creating your version of a fabulous life in 2016?

I have 1 spot opening up in my 1 on 1 practice starting in February.

Click here to apply for a discovery call to see if working together feels like a good fit.

xx

Rebecca

Afraid people will judge you if you “come out of the closet” as a coach?

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To be your most powerful self in the world and grow the business you are capable of, it’s vitally important that you shed light onto the fears and blocks standing in your way.

And one of the biggest fears I hear again and again from my clients is the fear of disapproval and judgment from others.

I’ll invite them to post about their business on Facebook or start introducing themselves as a coach when they’re out and about in the world, and they’ll say something like,

“OMG I don’t think I’m ready for that yet.  What if people criticize and judge me? What if my family and friends don’t approve or think I’m crazy? What if I have haters?”

The fear of criticism is POWERFUL.

And on a certain level this makes sense. Outspoken women have been metaphorically (and literally) bunt at the stake for centuries. The fear of being judged and shamed is woven into the collective unconscious of our society. But what we often don’t realize, at least on a conscious level, is that it is actually safe to speak our truth now.

Western women have more power to share our voices and express ourselves than anywhere else and at any other time in history. But many of us have a deeply entrenched need for approval that is holding us back.

Ask yourself:

  • Does the fear of criticism or disapproval strike a chord with you?
  • If you really spoke your truth, who are you worried you might offend or disappoint?
  • Is their approval really worth you playing small and not achieving your dreams? (put another way, if you had to choose between these people’s approval and a big pile of money + personal satisfaction, which would you pick?)

Here’s the thing.

When you first start your coaching business (before you have a fancy website, professional photos, or marketing systems and structures in place) the easiest way to get hired is through acquaintances and friends of friends.  But the only way that word of mouth will happen is if you are open and confident about being a coach!

The following quote by Danielle LaPorte sums up my thoughts on the fear of disapproval perfectly:

“I have never met someone who is living a bold and successful life—and by successful I mean prosperous, kind, and in touch with the meaningfulness of what he’s doing—who has apologized for being perfectionist, mercurial, unrelenting, or whatever his slightly controversial hallmark characteristics are. You will always be too much of something for someone: too big, too loud, to soft, too edgy. If you round out your edges, you lose your edge.”

NOW GO LET THE WORLD SEE THE AUTHENTIC, WONDERFUL, AND WILDLY LOVABLE HUMAN THAT YOU ARE!

xoxo

Rebecca

What nobody tells you about following your dreams

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There is a dangerous myth floating around the coaching industry that starting a passion-based business is pure bliss…

And that if you’re not leaping out of bed each morning + experiencing huge paydays right away…you’re doing something wrong.

I call bullshit.  

While my entrepreneurial journey has been hands-down the most meaningful + worthwhile experience of my life…it has NOT been a cakewalk.

  • Announcing my first workshop and only having 2 people sign up?  Not fun.
  • Moving into my mom’s basement for 4 months so I could quit my full time job?  Not glamorous.
  • Having friends and family repeatedly express concern about my ability to support myself?  Not empowering.
  • Gaining 10 pounds and not getting my period for three months straight due to stress?  Not sexy.
  • Having clients sign up for packages…and then back out or completely ghost?  Not the best feeling in the world.
  • Spending more money on coaching + training per month than rent…again and again and again…and not always knowing how the money was going to come in?  Pretty freaking terrifying.

Worth it?  Definitely.  

But easy?  Oh hell no!

The thing is, when we only see the shiny Facebook-worthy stuff, we can forget that every entrepreneur is an actual human being and therefore on a journey (full of highs, lows, and yes the occasional sleepless night or ugly cry).

I don’t say this to scare you, but rather equip you with the grit + determination needed to see your business through it’s awkward puberty stages…and not quit too soon because someone told you it would be easy.

Because when you do stick it out, the rewards are pretty spectacular…

  • You learn what you’re really made of…and develop a trust in yourself and The Universe like never before.
  • You experience the magic of doing work you LOVE and getting paid (well!) for it, which never stops being awesome.
  • You help transform people’s lives.
  • You connect with a tribe of people that are so insanely cool you can barely believe it.
  • People start looking up to you and regularly thanking you for the work you do.
  • You experience a level of freedom and joy you never knew existed.

From what I hear, it’s a lot like becoming a mother.  Giving birth is a painful sweaty process, followed by years of sleepless nights and a level of fear and anxiety that never quite goes away…

But ultimately?  You can’t imagine your life without your kid and wouldn’t trade the experience for the world.

If you’re ready to nurture my business baby (without losing my sanity), I invite you to book a free clarity call to learning about marketing and business coaching with me 🙂

Peace, love and all things FABULOUS,

Rebecca

The lazy girl’s guide to landing clients

3 tips for filling your client roster (without opening your laptop!)

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Think you have to spend hours trolling Facebook, launch a highly-produced video series or become an online celebrity to get hired as a coach? Think again!

Don’t get me wrong, online marketing systems + structures can be massively helpful for growing your business and brand (if they weren’t I’d be out of a job!).  But with the right mindset, you can actually start growing your practice without a single click of a mouse (gasp!).  Here’s how…

1) Get out of hiding.

It never ceases to surprise me how secretive new coaches can be about what they’re doing.  I’ve talked to women who feel they “couldn’t possibly” tell people about their new coaching business for fear they’ll be judged as “too weird”, “too woo-woo”, or (my personal favorite) “not  successful enough to be a coach.”

Hogwash!

Look, I get the fear of being judged.  I totally do.  I went through much of high school as a wallflower (and a psychic once told my I was burned at the stake for being a witch in a past life).  But newsflash: we’re not in high school (or Salem!) anymore.  At a certain point you have to ask yourself, would your rather avoid judgement or be massively successful and fulfilled?

When you start to be more open about what you do (ie. “come out of the closet” as a coach), most people will naturally be curious and want to learn more.  Don’t be afraid to tell them!

The more confident you are about what you do, the more positively people will react (and the more likely they will be to refer you business!). Might you get the occasional hater?  Sure.  But wouldn’t you rather be happy and get hired?  Yeah…that’s what I thought. 

2)  Consider the places you already go.

Remember, your potential clients are people too.  They buy groceries, get pedicures, sip lattes, and walk their dogs in the local park.  They’re out and about in the world—not just at networking events or online groups (and sometimes we forget this simple fact).

Whenever you’re going about your daily routine, ask yourself, “How would I show up/act if I assumed my ideal clients were here?” Then go do that.

This works because once you set an intention for a certain amount of clients, the Law of Attraction immediately goes to work on your behalf, sending the exact right people to you.  But remember, The Universe cares less about where you are than how you are being.  It doesn’t differentiate between a networking event and the produce aisle at Whole Foods (but it DOES respond to positive open energy wayyyyy more than closed off negative energy).

The lesson?  Your most powerful (and lucrative!) connections will occur in places you LOVE and already go (rather than places you think you “should” go to find clients).

3. Trust your intuition (and boldly follow it’s wisdom!)

What if I told you you have a POWERFUL inner business advisor that’s always available and exists to help you succeed? Would you want to know more?

Thought so.

Your intuition is just that, and to make more sales, it’s important to act on the inner hunches that surface.  If an old friend suddenly comes to mind?  Call them.  Get an intuitive hit during a conversation that you could really help someone?  Say so.

Sometimes this can feel really awkward if you have a pre-existing relationship with someone who you think would make an ideal client.  But I invite you to feel the awkwardness and trust your intuition anyway.

The next time you have an intuitive hit that a friend, co-worker or acquaintance would make an ideal client, I invite you to say something like, “Wow, that’s exactly what I do. Are you open to having a conversation about the services I offer that would really help you?”

This question provides you with a safe transition from friend to service provider and  gives them permission to say, “no thank you,” if they’re not interested.  The more you speak up on your intuitive hunches, the louder and more accurate they will get and the more clients you will find.

Did you find this post helpful?  Let me know in the comments below!

If you want MORE marketing insight and support filling up your 1 on 1 coaching practice, I just open the doors to my 4-month group program, Marketing Mastery, and I’d looooove to talk to you about it.  If you’re intrigued, click here to book a free clarity call with me!

Cha-ching! 9 Powerful Money Mantras for Spiritual Entrepreneurs

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Let’s face it, it’s impossible to start a business and avoid the subject of money altogether. Whether you love it, hate it, or just kind of ignore it and hope it’s around when you need it, money has an impact on almost every area life.

Thus it makes sense to take a deeper look at how you relate to money, and whether or not your money beliefs are serving you. If you want to improve your relationship with money (and grow your bank account in the process), I invite you to read the following 9 empowering money mantras (with an open mind + heart) and notice what they bring up for you.

1. The desire to make money is in no way “wrong” or “bad”.

No matter what you’ve been taught to believe, wanting more money is not evil. God/The Universe/whatever higher power you believe in does not want you to struggle with money. There is nothing spiritually noble or superior about not having money. Money is actually a tool for creating your ideal life.

What’s really juicy and interesting is the “why” behind money. Why do you desire wealth? What does an abundant life mean to you? Remember, the more money you have, the greater positive impact you can have on the world and the more fun experiences are available to you. What would the world be like if women like us—wise, caring, passionate lady-coaches—were very very wealthy? (HINT: lots of good stuff!)

2. We live in an abundant Universe.

It’s important to understand that on a spiritual level, you making money does not deprive or “take from” anyone else. There is more than enough to go around. Similarly, there is no need to see other coaches as your competition, or feel threatened by another coach who is “crushing it”.

There are more than enough ideal clients to go around.  The coaching industry is in no way saturated. In fact, it’s only in its infancy. For every person who has the drive + desire to become a coach, there are more than enough clients that desperately need what that coach has to offer (yes, YOU!).

3. Worth is not determined by struggle and had work.

We are often conditioned to believe that something that comes easily is less valuable than something we have to really struggle to achieve. This is simply untrue. Often the gifts that come to us most naturally (or what I call your “Um, duh!” skills) are worth the most!

You may think that your knack for organization or ability to cut straight to the heart of an issue isn’t so special because to you it’s like breathing. You’ve probably been doing it in some capacity for free your whole life. As a coach it’s time to reframe the way you look at these natural talents and recognize them for the valuable gifts they are.

4. Our predominant thoughts around money literally create our financial reality.

There is a popular saying that “thoughts become things,” and nothing could be truer. The thoughts we think day in and day out have a direct effect on our net worth!

Does this mean you can never worry about money or need to repress financial fears you have?

Of course not!

But it’s really important to bring any disempowering money thoughts to the surface, and regularly work to clear feelings, judgments, and fears you have around abundance. Begin to observe your habitual thought patterns, specifically around money. Are your thoughts empowering? If not, are you ready to let them go?

5. You’re family’s beliefs about money are not “truth”.

I know, I know, this may seem obvious but the stuff we were taught about money as little kids is deeply ingrained in our psyches. It’s really important to begin to excavate these beliefs and decide whether or not they work for you.

What did your parents tell you about money and abundance growing up?

How did this affect you?

Were you ever criticized for having too much or not enough?

Don’t be afraid to dig through your early experiences with money, as they are likely still impacting you today.

6. Gratitude is a magnet for abundance.

The more we appreciate what we have, the more we will have to appreciate. Sometimes it’s easy to forget the importance of feeling grateful for what we already enjoy. As a practice, I challenge you to begin by silently saying “thank you money” every time you pull out your credit card to buy that new dress or go to pay the restaurant bill.

Abundance is totally relative, and if you’re reading this, my guess is that there are a lot of people on the planet who would be THRILLED to have what you take for granted. This is not to make you feel guilty, but to remind you of how truly blessed you really are.

7. Money needs a purpose.

The more connected your financial goals are to a clear purpose (that is connected to an authentic and aligned desire), the more quickly abundance will flow to you. I hear a lot of women coaches say, “I want to make 6 figures,” which is awesome, but not if you just stop there. The real manifesting power comes from the “why” behind the number.

Do you want to travel more and feel more adventurous and inspired? Do you want to purchase a beautiful home where you can enjoy spending time with loved ones? Make sure to connect your financial goals with the desired feelings behind them and your manifesting power will be amplified exponentially.

8. Money is meant to flow through you and to you.

Despite what you may have been taught, there is no need to grip your money tightly for fear more will never come. It will. Just as you never doubt that after you exhale there will be air to inhale, there is no need to doubt that on a spiritual level that you will be provided for. The more ease and flow you have around money, the more ease and flow you will continue to feel.

How did these mantras feel to you?  Did they bring up anything surprising?  Would love to hear about your reactions in the comments below!

9. You are a powerful creator.

Whether or not you recognize it, you are capable of generating the money you desire (and that is on-purpose for you), right here and right now. You are more qualified, more ready and more able than you think. The biggest thing standing between you and earning the income you crave is your own perception of what you’re capable of.

Did this post resonate with you? Did it bring up anything surprising? I’d love to hear about it in the comments below!

Spoiler Alert: Fear + Resistance Never Really Go Away

How to make better decisions

As many of you know, I hit a big business milestone in March (and wasn’t exactly shy about sharing it).

And for the first few days of April, I celebrated.

Happy dances danced. Imaginary confetti tossed. Champagne bottles popped.

“Damn I’m good at sales,” I congratulated myself. “I’m totally crushing this whole entrepreneur thing!”

I wrote out my goals for the next four months, launched a Facebook ad campaign, led a live call, received a slew of positive feedback, and felt a rush of that magical “it’s all finally happening” excitement (you know what I’m talking about).

Then suddenly…out of nowhere….

FEAR. TERROR. ALL-CONSUMING ANXIETY.

It hit me like a ton of bricks.

“What if my recent success was just a fluke?” I panicked, my chest suddenly tied up in knots. “What if I never get hired again? Everyone’s gonna think I’m a huge failure…” and down the rabbit hole I tumbled.

I let my apartment get really messy…tripped and hurt my toe…ate an entire box of cookies…and stayed up until 5am watching Netflix….2 nights in a row.

I woke up Saturday morning groggy, bloated, and full of shame.

“WTF am I doing?!?,” I wondered. “I’m a freaking coach! Things are going well!”

But then I remembered….

Fear + resistance never really go away, no matter what milestones we reach. Our egos are crafty, and will continue to try to derail our progress (in a screwed up attempt to keep us safe).

But we can get wayyyy better at dealing with our resistance and fear, and significantly cut down the time it takes for us to move through it and bounce back.

Here’s what I did to move through my stuff:

  • I prayed to God to help me get back on track and committed to loving myself through my process (every time I caught myself going to that, “Rebecca, you suck” place, I stopped and repeated a loving + affirming mantra).
  • I “outed” my fear to my coach and a few close friends.
  • I journaled my heart out.
  • I listened to a few of Gina Devee’s podcasts (this woman is the bomb.com, just saying)

Slowly I started to feel a better.  And on Sunday I started to feel some MAJOR energetic shifts + juicy new ideas (stay tuned).

When I sat down to write this post, it was supposed to be a set of tips for dealing with resistance (minus my personal story).  “I can’t let people know how messy, raw and human I am,” I thought.  “If they knew my life wasn’t pink and sparkly all the time, they’d never want to hire me.”

BULLSHIT.

Just because I’m a coach, doesn’t mean I have to have it all together all the time. I don’t.  In fact, all I really have to do is be committed to my growth and the growth of my clients. I have to be LIVING this work, feeling it all, and allowing myself to move through it.

And the same is true for you.

Being a coach, hitting a big business milestone, or having some level of success, doesn’t mean you won’t still wobble, struggle, or fall down sometimes. You will.

But you’ll also get back up.

Again. And again. And again.

You will go deeper into your own process, and every time you do, your ability to be with + support your clients through their stuff will expand.

And if you’re brave enough to mine your challenges for the golden “teachable nuggets”, and begin to share your experiences with the world, you’re marketing will become more magnetic than ever before.

Because potential clients, readers, friends and really anyone for that matter want your truth (and if they don’t, they’re not your people).

This isn’t to say that you should use your clients as therapy or your blog as a journal, but when you share what you’re going through from a place of love, vulnerability, and authenticity, people can feel it.

And it’s so powerful.

So my challenge to you this week is two-fold.

1) To love yourself even more deeply as you move through your process (however messy and imperfect).

2) To be more vulnerable and real in your marketing–even, or rather, especially, if it makes you a little bit uncomfortable.

The world doesn’t need another life coach pretending to be perfect.  It needs YOU in all your raw, messy, imperfect and oh so fabulous glory.

And don’t you forget it!

xo

Rebecca

Ps. Are you caught in the throws of fear and resistance around growing your business?  I’d love to support you!  Click here to book a free clarity call!

Why I wrote a stranger a $600 check last week

“I want to give you this,” I said, as I handed my new friend a check for $600. 

She looked down, quizzically, and then her eyes widened, “OMG what? Are you serious? No…this is too much…I couldn’t possibly…” tears began to well up.

“Yes. I’m serious. And yes, you can,” I said as we hugged.

“Welcome to Inner Glow Circle.”

It was Day 2 of a media workshop in Austin, TX led by the epically talented Ellie Scarborough Brett, and my heart was bursting.

I was beyond moved by the bravery and conviction of my fellow participants, particularly this woman. Over vegan tacos at lunch that day (side note: Austin is DELICIOUS), I asked what she craved most in her life right now.

“Sisterhood,” she replied immediately.

“I just want to be around positive women who get me. I feel SO alone”

My heart went out to her.

I told her about Inner Glow Circle, the amazing coaching community I co-lead and her eyes lit up. But when she heard the price tag, sadness + defeat returned.

“I’d love to but I can’t afford it,” she sighed.

Normally when someone says this to me, I know it’s not necessarily true. I’ve learned that by encouraging a woman to invest in herself, I can actually facilitate a massive breakthrough.

But after hearing her heart-wrenching story, I decided not to push the matter, and we moved on to other subjects.

Later that afternoon, a strong voice inside me said, “Gift her the money to be in the program for 3 months. She needs Inner Glow Circle and the community needs her.”

So I wrote the check.

Now in case you’re thinking I’m like Oprah over here (“A car for you, a car for you, and a car for you…”), think again. In fact, if you’d told me this story three months ago, I literally wouldn’t have believed you.

At the time, I was living in my Mom’s basement, working 24/7, and on the brink of burnout. I thought I had to scrimp and save every penny, do work I didn’t love to pay the bills, and that creating wealth had to take a looooong time and a lot of hustle.

But over the past few months I’ve radically shifted my story around money.  And I’m proud to say that between coaching and other income streams, I celebrated my first-even 5-figure month in March.

I do not say this to brag (In fact, I was brought up an a family where we were encouraged to be understated, humble, and not talk about money).

But I actually do need to talk about this. Because other women—particularly coaches–need to know it’s possible to do work we love and be WELL compensated for it.

I never fully understood what it was about wealth that was so appealing to me until now. Sure, I love hot shoes and luxury travel as much as the next girl, but more than that, I love saying yes to my desires—to give and receive—without hesitation or anxiety.

I adore being generous. Taking someone’s breath away. Unexpectedly picking up the tab at dinner. Creating jobs.  Purchasing products and services from people I believe in.

I love being part of The Universe saying “yes” to someone.

I’ve come to believe that at its essence, money is energy, and by healing my relationship to it, I allow larger amounts to flow to me and through me.

When I drop the fear around spending, discomfort around receiving, shame around not having “enough”, or guilt around having “too much”, I realize that money is an inherently divine and beautiful thing.

And the more I stay connected to the divinity and beauty of money, the greater my capacity to be a conduit for it becomes.

In my signature program, BrandFABULOUS, we dive deep into your money story and explore whether or not it’s serving you. Because it’s hard to create a successful business and a lifestyle you love until you heal your relationship with money.

And thus money, and my all time fav subject–marketing–are inextricably linked.

You cannot have successful sales conversations if deep down you don’t really believe there’s enough to go around, or if limiting thoughts like, “my clients can’t afford to pay me” or “I can’t have what I want” are running through your head.

And if you are constantly in fear around money, it’s hard to show up as the highest version of yourself, which does everyone–particularly your clients–a disservice.

I am on a mission to heal what I perceive to be a broken story around money, particularly among women coaches, and I would love to work with YOU.

I invite you to book a free clarity call with me to explore money and marketing at a deeper level.

With sparkle and soul,

Rebecca

Ps. Want to learn more about Inner Glow Circle and why it’s so rad? Click here.

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Are you “on the fence” about hiring a coach?

On the fence

People often tell me they’re “on the fence” about hiring a coach.

They want to “sit with it”, “sleep on it”, “talk to their husband/mom/bestie”, and “ya know, just kind of mull it over.” They usually know what they really want to do, but feel afraid to decide one way or another.

Can you relate?

I certainly can. In fact, indecision used to run rampant in almost every area of my life.

For example, I’d be dating guy I was kinda sorta into (but deep down knew wasn’t right for me), and it would take me MONTHS to end the relationship.

Or I’d want to buy something (a new Kate Spade purse, a workshop ticket, or a trip to Costa Rica) and I’d think about it for days or even weeks at a time.

“Can I really afford it?

 Will I regret it?

 I don’t really need it, do I?

 What if I make the ‘wrong choice’?” I’d wonder

Ultimately I’d go with what my initial instinct said to do all along, but in the process I wasted SO MUCH ENERGY in the swirl of indecision and confusion.

I’ve learned that to be successful, you have to make decisions. And often, the faster you do so (and the less you second guess yourself) the better.

Small decisions. Medium decisions. And OMG-big-scary-my-life-might-be-overrrrrr-if-this-fails-decisions. There is power in deciding, committing and going “all in” (whether it’s with a coach, a romantic partner, or even a pair of shoes).

We often think that by staying ‘on the fence’ we get to experience the best of both worlds. We get to baby-step towards what we want without assuming any actual risk.

But ultimately, nothing could be further from the truth.

 Because when you avoid making powerful decisions, and refrain from going “all in”, you miss out on all the best life has to offer.

There is a beautiful Goethe quote that illustrates this perfectly:

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This week, I invite you to make a decision you’ve been on the fence about (no matter how big or small).

 Remember to choose from a place of love (rather than fear) and know that no matter what, you are safe and protected.

 If you feel inspired to do so, please reply to this post and share the decision you made (I will do a happy dance on your behalf + reply with a few words of encouragement :).

 Wishing you a wonderful (and bold!) week ahead!

xx

Rebecca

Ps. “On the fence” about whether or not my BrandFABULOUS program is right for you?  

 I invite you to book a clarity call with me to explore what it would be like to work together. You will leave the call more clear and decided than you came, promise 😉